When People Say Things They Don't Mean...

Most of the time, I try to speak only when I have something to say, and when I mean what I say. Sure, I'm not immune to a white lie or two, here and there, and I would choose to omit something if I don't think it's necessary to reveal myself. However, I generally don't try to mislead or misguide others, or misrepresent myself or be "fake." I'm pretty much "what you see is what you get" and at times I even wear my emotions on my sleeves a bit too much.

So what I don't understand is why some people choose to not be truthful. "I'd like to be friends" or "Let's do dinner tomorrow" or "I'll call you." They never meant it. Or friends who won't return calls or email, and then they say "oh, I was very busy" when I know they actually weren't. It's very frustrating for me to trust people sometimes because I don't know what is real and what is not. I've met enough people who "faked" me out that I became aware of trying to protect myself from potential disappointment and hurt. Granted, I know I can appear to be aloof or distant and maybe other people think I'm faking them out, too. The reality is, I'm always very sincere, and if I don't like someone, he or she will know. I don't pretend to be friendly to anyone, and I don't make any promise I don't intend to keep. And if I can't do something, I will let them know.

I wish people would be less inclined to "try to be nice." Let's be frank, shall we? Don't worry about hurting my feelings. It's more humane that way, most of the time.